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Sunday, 30 May 2021

How to be resilient: This practical guide to dealing with setbacks is essential reading

Ensure you're making practical self-care steps to avoid becoming overwhelmed by the 'new normal'.

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Life might be getting back to normal but many of us are still feeling the effect of the pandemic on our mental health. In fact, you might not even realise the full impact the past year has had on your mental health until you're back in 'the real world'. Indeed, recent ONS figures show cases of depression are on the rise despite lockdown lifting. From the period of 27th January to 7th March 2021, around 1 in 5 (21%) adults in the UK experienced some form of depression, an increase since November 2020 (when the figure stood at 19%) and more than double that observed before the Coronavirus pandemic (10%).

That's why it's so important to take heed of your own mental health and ensure you're making practical self-care steps to avoid becoming overwhelmed by the 'new normal'.

"Mental health is a huge part of all of our lives and for too many of us it’s a mystery, but if we understand our minds we can put ourselves in control so we can really live," says Daniel Howell, a mental health activist and author of You Will Get Through This Night.

Inspired by Dan’s own mental health journey shared with millions of his fans on stage and screen, along with his work as an ambassador for mental health charity Young Minds, his new book promises to be a practical guide to understanding and taking control of your mental health, written in an entertaining and personal way from someone who has been through it all.

Written in consultation with psychologist Dr. Heather Bolton and spilt over three sections; This Night, Tomorrow and The Day After, the book provides a refreshing, realistic approach to looking after your mental wellbeing the way we all experience it - whether you are in a crisis, just looking to make a change or want to know how to look after yourself every day.

Resilience

Training your resilience can help you to keep going in the face of adversity. It’s more than just bouncing back, it’s the act of moving forward as we grow from our experiences. Being resilient can look like:

Viewing challenges as opportunities
Focusing on the things you can control
Adapting your response to challenging situations
Maintaining a sense of purpose and drive
Asking for support when needed

Training your resilience can help you to keep going in the face of adversity.

Resilience is about being realistically optimistic. It’s not wishful thinking, it’s just being aware of what you can actually achieve and allowing yourself to be hopeful that you will succeed. Don’t be cynical about your own abilities, planting a seed of doubt that can self-sabotage. If you second guess yourself, it could be a self- fulfilling prophecy. Be realistic, but be fair to yourself and go into situations wanting to win!

It’s not something that’s fixed, it fluctuates through life and is something we can develop. It’s partly about our mindset, but also about how we respond in the face of stressful situations.

Generation Impatient: Have we lost the art of conversation and forgotten how to be in the present?

Self-care service station

During stressful and challenging times, self-care is essential to maintain your overall resilience, so don’t forget the basics – eating, sleep and hygiene, and staying hydrated.

It may sound simple, but if you let these slip it can chip away at your hard work and your mindset.

Try to keep your positive routine and stay on top of necessary stuff – having routine and structure gives you a strong foundation for coping.
Take time for yourself – literally remember to breathe, be mindful if you need a moment and take time to do things you enjoy to recover.

Reading the signals right

Psychological theory says we tend to see stressful situations in one of three broad ways: a challenge, a threat, or a loss.

Seeing it as a challenge → having hope, a fighting spirit and putting energy into finding a solution.

Seeing it as a threat → assuming the worst, feeling anxious and deflated.

Seeing it as a loss → acting like the damage has already been done, there’s nothing you can do, and feeling helpless.

Try to look for aspects of your situation that you can see as a challenge to overcome – this will help you adopt a positive approach and channel your energy into solving the problem, known as adaptive coping. Of course, this might not always be possible and you can’t keep fighting forever, but there will always be an opportunity for learning from the situation.
Feeling threatened is absolutely normal, but try to notice whether you’re getting caught up with catastrophic thinking. Break the problem down and focus on what you can control, even if it’s a small piece of the 10,000 piece 1-colour jigsaw.

If you’re feeling helpless because of things you’ve lost, allow yourself to feel that – resilience involves connecting honestly with feelings, not shutting them off. It’s a healthy part of processing what’s going on for you. The key is balance.

Channel your energy into what you can change.
Evaluate any aspects bringing up anxiety.
Allow time to deal with your feelings.
Being flexible between these three approaches will help you deal with the fun of life’s many suddenly surprising challenges."

You Will Get Through This Night by Daniel Howell is available now in hardback, eBook and audio download (HQ)

Sunday, 18 April 2021

Why Challenging Ourselves Is Essential to Sharpening Our Creativity

Creativity

How undertaking a project of epic scope can strengthen you.

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When I was in sixth grade, my first year in a new school, and also my first year in middle school, I went from being a pretty average kid who did very well in school and had a number of friends to becoming very introverted.

I left all those friends hundreds of miles behind. It was the year I experienced my first (and only, thank goodness) in bullying, perpetrated by an eighth-grade boy who would fit perfectly as a cast member named “Obnoxious Cruel Jackass Number 2” in any number of 80s movies.

That school year also began just a few months after the first really impactful death in my life, that of my maternal grandmother, who I was very close to and at whose home my little brother and I spent countless sleepovers.

Everything, all at once, seemed to pile on and suffocate me. It was the first time I told myself “I want to die”.

I don’t write this to make you feel bad for me. Please don’t. There are many people who had and have it far worse than I. Indeed, thirty-plus years later, I’m doing fine. This is just to set the stage.

If this perfect storm hadn’t all come together then, I might not be able to consider myself a writer now. It was because of these factors that I “retreated” into a fantasy world of my own creation. I wrote and drew the first page, of what would become thousands, of a sci-fi/fantasy/adventure comic strip I called “Protector”.

It brought together influences from comic books and movies I had seen and told the story of the last of a race of people who became a knight covered in a liquid metal armour that traversed space in search of people to help in a never-ending quest against various and sundry evil forces.

I continually added to this story for the next seven years, charting the course of the Protector’s life and battles. He saved millions, got married, and eventually had a son who took his father’s place as the Protector of the next generation.

I didn’t start that story with any idea on how it would end, or even an outline for how events would play out over the years. It just happened. And the more I did, the more it healed me and helped me come out of whatever cocoon I was in. By the time I reached high school, I felt normal again…

Whole.

Whatever I Did, it Healed Me

A few years ago, I had an idea for a novel that I knew would be tough. I knew it would mean a lot of hours of research, let alone actual writing and rewriting. To make it good, really good, I would need to essentially learn all I could about the world history of the past millennium, gothic and horror literature since the 18th century and a dozen exotic foreign locales.

I was accustomed to writing screenplays, short stories and poetry — generally, things involving processes measuring from one day to possibly four months at most. Now, I was preparing to jump into a novel that could take a year, maybe two.

It’s been three years now, and I’m almost done with the first draft.

The forward momentum and challenge of taking on something, to me, that is fairly grand in scope, propelled my creativity to new heights. I started and completed another new novel in 2016. I’ve also outlined and made serious headway on a new novel series.

All while in the midst of working on the mega-project.

I’ve argued with myself about doing this. Of course, I’ve used up precious time that I could have dedicated to the “big” book. Surely, I would have finished that one had I never zipped away on these other tangents!

But, throughout it all, my brain was in overdrive. I’ve probably had more ideas in the past 3 years than in the whole previous 40.

And I think I’ve figured it out:

The more we challenge ourselves as writers, the more our minds adapt to the challenge.

This has some scientific backing. We know that continued education throughout life, as well as continued reading and playing puzzle or “thinking” games in later life, tends to keep the mind nimble and promotes overall health.

And it makes sense, just like hitting the gym or going for a run. If you desire “gains”, you need to do a lot of reps or push yourself to greater distances.

So, don’t just accept the short, small, easy tasks. Don’t aim for the minimum level you can strive for.

And don’t just come up with a dream project to simply have one. Come up with that dream project with the full intent to finish it, even if you know could take years.

A. S. Deller

Startup product manager. Sci fi, Fantasy and Science writer. https://t.co/6Eny0CBdBD https://channillo.com/user/29057 https://twitter.com/deller_a

Sunday, 14 March 2021

A Counterintuitive Way to Cheer Up When You’re Down

Cheering up

When you most need to get happier, try giving happiness away.

Arthur C. Brooks

March 4, 2021

Photo by Ben White on Unsplash

“How to Build a Life” is a weekly column by Arthur Brooks, tackling questions of meaning and happiness.

Norman Rockwell painted some of the most iconic images of 20th-century America. His paintings, such as Rosie the Riveter and the Four Freedoms series from World War II, and The Problem We All Live With and Murder in Mississippi from the civil-rights movement, were intended to evoke the best in people who saw them: hope, solidarity, courage, justice—but most of all, happiness. The bulk of his work captured scenes of lighthearted joy. Consider Shiner, which depicts a young girl with a black eye, sitting outside the principal’s office with a grin that tells you she has just been the victor in combat.

I have seen these paintings my whole life, starting with my grandfather’s beloved, dog-eared coffee-table book of Rockwell’s greatest works. A printing-press operator in Longview, Washington, my grandfather was no art connoisseur. But he gave this assessment of Rockwell: “These pictures make me feel happy.”

And yet, Rockwell himself struggled with happiness. In 1953, he moved to Stockbridge, Massachusetts, a bucolic town in the Berkshires—not for its natural beauty and peace but because it happened to be the home of a psychiatric hospital where he and his wife could receive treatment for chronic depression. There, he was a patient of the world-famous psychoanalyst Erik Erikson, with whom Rockwell racked up a therapy bill so large that he had to accept commissions for Kellogg’s Corn Flakes magazine ads.

That a man with such significant happiness problems would be known for painting images of undeniable happiness might seem ironic. In truth, it’s not strange at all. Research shows not only that you can bring joy to others even if you’re unhappy, but also that doing so is a reliable way to improve your own well-being, too. That doesn’t come naturally to most of us, however, to our detriment. To make a change, we can start by understanding how the process works, so we can build better habits and consciously commit to giving happiness when we most need to get it.

Few of us want our negative moods to drag others down. But in practice, a lot of people follow a theory of happiness that can be summed up in the famous line from airline-safety videos: “Put on your own mask before assisting others.” In other words, you can’t make others happy unless and until you are happy yourself. I get the reasoning: Unhappy people often bring wretchedness to those around them. Think of the most miserable boss you’ve had, and you’ll know what I mean.

This belief is backed up by research. As Lane Wallace wrote in The Atlantic in 2011, longitudinal studies of families show that one person’s unhappiness can be “poison” to others in close proximity. Wallace noted that women married to unhappy men tend to be unhealthier and live shorter lives than those married to happy men; children whose mothers have a happy marriage are 18 percentage points more likely to be happy at home than those with mothers in an unhappy marriage. Misery loves company, according to the old adage—and untreated, it creates company too.

Read: The poison of unhappiness

None of us wants to be the purveyor of poison, especially toward those we love. Fortunately, research also shows that we have more control over how we affect others—and ourselves—than we might assume. The key is to act like a happy person would, even if you don’t feel like it.

Last year, researchers at the University of California at Riverside asked human subjects to behave in either extroverted or introverted ways for one week. They found that those purposively acting extroverted—which decades of research have shown is one of the most common characteristics of happy people—saw a significant increase in well-being. (Meanwhile, acting introverted led to a decrease.) Similarly, spending money on others and volunteering have both been shown to raise one’s own happiness levels.

One plausible explanation for why this works is that prosocial behaviors induce a cognitive dissonance—I feel unhappy, but I am acting happy!—which people resolve subconsciously by feeling happier. Richard Wiseman, a psychologist at the University of Hertfordshire, in the United Kingdom, calls this the “As If Principle”: If you want to feel a certain way, act as if you already do, and your brain will grant you that feeling—at least for a while. In common parlance, “Fake it ’til you make it.”

Read: People seek out a certain kind of person when they are happy

I am not suggesting here that “Fake it ’til you make it” is a substitute for traditional medical treatment for depression, of course. Norman Rockwell, for instance, was in formal therapy most of his adult life. But his happy paintings were clearly part of his treatment. As Rockwell’s biographer Deborah Solomon points out, “He was painting … his longing.”

So paint your longing. Even if not literally, you can use the Rockwell formula in your own life to bring more joy to yourself and the people around you when you are down.

First, ask what happy people in your life situation would do to make things better for themselves and others. How would they greet others in the first Zoom call of the day? How would they write an email? Whom would they call just to check in? If you’re stuck, interview happy people you know about the little things they do for their acquaintances and loved ones.

Read: The personality trait that makes people feel comfortable around you

Next, make a plan to follow through on everything you just imagined, and commit to it. Write three ideas for extra-kind greetings on a Post-it note and stick it below your computer screen before that Zoom call. Draft a sample email in the voice of a happy person, and use it as a template. Make a list of friends and family with whom you’re overdue for a chat, and schedule those calls in your planner.

These steps aren’t a set of direct happiness adjustments; they’re more of a bank shot. By deliberately preparing yourself to cheer up the people around you the way a happy person spontaneously would, you’ll create the conditions by which you can produce your own happiness naturally—and give the gift of happiness to others, as well.

Arthur C. Brooks is a contributing writer at The Atlantic, the William Henry Bloomberg professor of the practice of public leadership at the Harvard Kennedy School, a professor of management practice at the Harvard Business School, and host of the podcast The Art of Happiness With Arthur Brooks.

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Saturday, 23 January 2021

Dare To Lead As Your Authentic Self

Your Authentic Self

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As the founder of a startup, Tracy Young often worried that employees and investors valued male CEOs more -- and that being a woman compromised her position as a leader. In this brave, personal talk, she gives an honest look at the constraints women face when trying to adapt to a male-dominated business culture -- and shares how she developed the courage and vulnerability to lead as her complete, raw self. (This talk contains a graphic story. Discretion is advised.)

Tuesday, 5 January 2021

Willpower Is Overrated, Have Courage Instead

Willpower

The only 2021 resolution you need.

Sergey Faldin

Jan 4 · 5 min read

At the beginning of this year, I caught myself by the tail.

But before I explain what that means, we need to understand something important.

Most of the time, there’s no such thing as ‘the process of making a decision.’ Most of the time, the decision has been made. You know what you need to do. Even if you don’t, your body does. Everything else is just hesitation.

Similarly, when we spend endless hours contemplating what our ‘calling’ is, what we’re most likely doing is indulging in our own self-pity.

We know what we need to do. Everything else is just procrastination. This brings me to…

The tail.

I found myself in a weird place at the end of 2020.

I’ve been writing for quite some time on Medium (14 months, to be exact). And I’ve been writing every single day. Then, in a span of three months, a few things happened: I broke up with my girlfriend, quit my job, and went to live back to my home city for a while. In case you were wondering, I don’t recommend anyone doing all those things at once.

Which is to say, I stopped writing. Not at all — but I did stop publishing. Shipping. And as Seth Godin says in his new book, ‘if you don’t ship, it doesn’t count.’

Then I moved on and over my breakup, got back to London, celebrated Christmas, yet still wasn’t writing.

I told myself stories that I was lost. That I was still looking for myself. And while a part of that was true, a big part of it is simple procrastination.

The truth is, I know exactly what I want to do. I want to teach, lead, tell stories, and write. I have a direction — which, in many cases, is more important than having a path.

But a part of me loves the image of a ‘lost 20-something boy, making his way through the darkness of the world…’

There is nothing wrong with coasting for a while. I’ve been coasting for about six months now. It’s just a choice.

And a question.

‘What do you actually want?’

Because if you know what you want, every second spent doing something else (including nothing) is stealing a second from you, building towards that.

The problem is, once again, Resistance. The older I get and the more experienced as a writer, the more I see: it takes real guts to sit down and do creative work each day. To fight that Resistance. To focus on the practice, not the outcomes. To trust the soup.

And for the big part of my journey so far, I thought that all we needed is a grain of willpower. I told myself that all we need to do was to push ourselves to sit down in front of the typewriter (or whatever instrument you use for creative work) and do the work.

There is a lot of truth to that. However, as anyone who tried pushing themselves too much knows, discipline is toxic. It burns through your fuel fairly quickly. And it leaves you feeling as if you cheated on yourself.

Willpower is overrated. So is discipline.

But you know what’s underrated? Courage. That’s what John Gardner meant when he noticed that, ‘The world loves talent but pays off on character.’

I used to think that character was in the ability to push yourself. Self-control. Self-discipline. Jocko Willink. David Goggins.

But in the real world, not on the running track or in combat, almost nothing valuable is done with willpower. Almost everything is done with courage. No matter how hard you try to break the house wall with your forehead, it’s still a better option to knock on the door.

When I look back at the decisions that have shaped my life, those weren’t decisions of willpower. They were decisions of courage. Still, some of them involved both.

When I was 14 and overweight, I was bullied by my classmates. Heck, I was bullied by my family too. The decision to stop eating crap and take better care of myself was brave, especially for a 14-year-old who lives with his parents. It also involved a truckload of willpower.

But when I was 19 and decided to drop out of college, there was no willpower—only terror. And the antidote: courage. To this day, it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

As someone smart put it, ‘Your life shrinks or expands in proportion to your courage.’

You can’t fake it. You can’t be courageous but also not be. If you have a plan B, that’s not courage. That’s a performance. Courage and 100% vulnerability requires you to be open to anything life throws at you. It requires you to take a step into the unknown. Feel that terror. Sit with it. But go forward anyway.

I wrote before that there are two basic types of motivation: fear or love. You can work at a job because you’re afraid you won’t have any money to pay the rent. Or you can work there because you love what you do and want to make an impact—the same job and yet, drastically different experiences.

Fear can also be helpful. It can guide you towards courage. If you use fear as a compass, always following the scary path, the road less traveled by, you’ll inevitably end up being courageous. So perhaps we should not be seeking ways to be braver but seek scary paths instead.

Like, publishing an article. Getting in shape. Finally, going all-in on ourselves and our dreams. After all, it’s January 2021. The perfect time for a change.

Courage is also something we’ll have to exercise daily if we want a life of meaning. When I look back at what happened to me over the past six months, I see: I stopped being brave. I gave in to the fear. And I don’t blame myself — sometimes to keep just hanging on is hard enough. Life throws circumstances our way, and we have to learn to dodge them.

Now, speaking of change. Remember last year? We made all sorts of plans for 2020, and look where that got us. I propose that this year, we don’t make too many resolutions. Except one.

Be brave.

Be brave by doing what only you can do. Be brave by betting on yourself. Be brave by shipping your creative work. Be brave by showing up each day. And if it doesn't work out, be brave enough not to blame yourself. You’ll try again tomorrow.

David Goggins once said, ‘do one thing that sucks every day.’ That seems to work for him.

I propose, ‘do one thing you’re afraid of every day.’

And see where that will get you.

Happy 2021.

Written by

Sergey Faldin

Writer. Making sense of the world and teaching others. | Daily creative newsletter: https://honestcreative.substack.com/ / faldin.sergey@gmail.com

Tuesday, 15 December 2020

The 7 Most Enviable Human Traits

Life

Qualities that will make (or break) your life.

Karen Nimmo

6 days ago·4 min read

What do you want to be when you grow up?

That’s a question we’re all asked as kids. The trouble is, for most of us it never really goes away. In our 20s, 30s, 40s and up, we’re still asking it.

Because even when you get the job right — you have work you love/enjoy (or at least can stand) the question changes from what do you want to be to WHO to you want to be.

I’ve studied this for a long time, picking up the gold nuggets from all sorts of people along the way. Interestingly, they have not been the richest people, or the most famous, or those with the coolest clothes.

They have just been people who possess those sneaky, almost imperceptible, qualities that ensure they lead lives of contentment.

Here’s how they do it.

1. They don’t take things personally.

“I always cheer up immensely if an attack is particularly wounding because I think, well, if they attack one personally, it means they have not a single political argument left.” — Margaret Thatcher

It’s a great sadness (and waste) that we spend half our lives worrying about what others think of us and taking their judgments to heart. The trick to not taking things personally is to understand their critiques are not about you — nothing is. Because everyone is operating from their own belief system, borne of their background and experience. And that can make people narrow, weird and more than a little mean.

2. They‘re not defined by their story.

“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.” — Albert Einstein

They know, and understand, their own story, or at least as much of it as is possible to know. But they don’t keep looking back over their shoulders. They don’t keep raising the past — their upbringing, parents or experiences — as the reason for the way their lives are now (even if it is a really, really good one). They know the best way of shaping their lives is to take charge of their own actions — and they focus on that, daily.

3. They let their best be Good Enough.

“The essence of being human is that one does not seek perfection.” — George Orwell

Arguably, the most commonly heard phrase in therapy is “I’m not good enough”. Of course it comes in many different packages but the bottom line is that it makes people feel inadequate, that they don’t hold a valid place in the world.

The smartest amongst us don’t handcuff their efforts with unreachable standards. They set their goals for themselves, not the masses on Instagram or LinkedIn. They know when to pivot. When to step back and learn. When to quit. They know their own version of best is Good Enough.

4. They jump — not stupidly — but they jump.

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.”
― Helen Keller

They’re not afraid to take risks. They’ll jump. Not scarily or insanely or in a way that hurts others. But they will venture into the unknown without guarantee of a soft landing. And that leads them into a life of Great Adventure. Or at least one that’s never boring.

5. They let others live on their own terms.

“You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for you.” — Miguel Ruiz

They don’t get caught in the trap of judging others, which means they don’t say (or tweet) mean things. They have their own thoughts and beliefs but they only spread those that don’t hurt others.

They don’t confuse worry with love. They stand back and let the people they love make their own choices. Even if it’s hard. Even if they KNOW they’re doing the wrong thing. Even if they’re twitching to interfere.

They believe in live and live let live. That all sorts of humans make up the world. That they only person they have full ownership of is the one in the mirror.

6. They have infinite capacity to love.

“Love with no boundaries. Your future depends on your capacity to love.” — Paulo Coelho

To go through life with an open and loving heart is not easy — because people will take potshots at you, that old heart of yours will get banged up a bit — by lovers and partners and friends and family and kids. By life, too. Life can be a bit mean when it decides to be. But to hold onto a loving, generous spirit, no matter what your circumstances, will define your life.

7. They live the width of their lives (as well as the length of them).

“I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I have just lived the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.” — Diane Ackerman

None of us comes into the world with a certified end date. All we have is the beginning, the knowledge that life will end and a mandate to operate as well as we can in the gap. Which is way harder than it sounds.

Those who have it sorted worry less about the length of life and more about the quality of it. They fill it with meaning at all ages and stages. If you study people you’ll know who I mean. They’re the people with light in their eyes, who — when their time is up — are not afraid. They can rest easy, knowing they made the most of the trip.

Wednesday, 25 November 2020

3 Seccrets of Resilient People

Courage

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Everyone experiences loss, but how do you cope with the tough moments that follow? Resilience researcher Lucy Hone shares three hard-won strategies for developing the capacity to brave adversity, overcome struggle and face whatever may come head-on with fortitude and grace.

This talk was presented to a local audience at TEDxChristchurch, an independent event. TED's editors chose to feature it for you.

About the speaker

Lucy Hone · Resilience expert and researcher

Dr. Lucy Hone builds resilience among individuals, communities and organizations.

Friday, 23 October 2020

The Beautiful Balance Between Courage And Fear

After being diagnosed with a rare genetic condition that deteriorates muscle, Cara E. Yar Khan was told she'd have to limit her career ambitions and dial down her dreams. She ignored that advice and instead continued to pursue her biggest ambitions. In this powerful, moving talk, she shares her philosophy for working on the projects that matter to her most -- while letting courage and fear coexist. Watch for heart-stopping, vertigo-inducing footage of a trip that shows her living her theory to the full. This talk was presented at an official TED conference, and was featured by our editors on the home page.

About the speaker Cara E. Yar Khan · Human rights and disability activist Cara E. Yar Khan is an international human rights advocate promoting the inclusion of people with disabilities within all facets of society.

Friday, 27 December 2019

The Beautiful Balance Between Courage And Fear

Thursday, 30 July 2015

5 Regrets People Have On Their Deathbed

This looks like a morbid post but since dying is part of life, I thought I'd share this with you because so often there are so many regrets and things left unsaid. Happy are those who can die in peace, knowing that they have lived a good and successful life. By successful I don't mean they built an empire but that they respected their family and friends and had that in return and lived a fulfilled life.

Most people wish they had done this or that differently and the reason I am sharing this article today is that now is the time to remedy what might become a regret. We often live in the past and the future but forget to live in the present. That is by far the most important way to live. Tomorrow is never guaranteed says she, who two days ago had a fall which could so easily have been fatal.

5 Regrets on the Deathbed

Sunday, 30 May 2021

'Stiff thinking' could be making us unhappy, so here's how to adopt a more flexible way of thinking to free your mind and ease anxiety

Resilience

Generation Impatient: Have we lost the art of conversation and forgotten how to be in the present?

Self-care service station

Reading the signals right

Sunday, 18 April 2021

How undertaking a project of epic scope can strengthen you.

Whatever I Did, it Healed Me

A. S. Deller

Sunday, 14 March 2021

Saturday, 23 January 2021

Tuesday, 5 January 2021

The only 2021 resolution you need.

Writer. Making sense of the world and teaching others. | Daily creative newsletter: https://honestcreative.substack.com/ / faldin.sergey@gmail.com

Tuesday, 15 December 2020

Qualities that will make (or break) your life.

Karen Nimmo

6 days ago·4 min read

1. They don’t take things personally.

2. They‘re not defined by their story.

3. They let their best be Good Enough.

4. They jump — not stupidly — but they jump.

5. They let others live on their own terms.

6. They have infinite capacity to love.

7. They live the width of their lives (as well as the length of them).

Wednesday, 25 November 2020

Friday, 23 October 2020

Friday, 27 December 2019

Thursday, 30 July 2015