Thought to Ponder
This will mean different things to different people!
This will mean different things to different people!
Does ‘Having It All’ Mean Doing It All?
Plenty
of new research underscores the reality that women are still
shouldering, and expected to shoulder, much of the work associated with
the home.
By Maya Salam
“Marriage
still ain’t equal, y’all. It ain’t equal. I tell women that whole ‘you
can have it all’ — mmm, nope. Not at the same time. That’s a lie. It’s
not always enough to lean in, because that [expletive] doesn’t work.”
— Michelle Obama
— Michelle Obama
When
Mrs. Obama spoke these words this week at a Brooklyn stop of her
“Becoming” book tour, the crowd (and in turn, the internet) went wild. But it wasn’t just her challenge to Sheryl Sandberg’s “lean in” that struck me — nor was it her rare, unfiltered language, though I liked that too — it was her comment about “having it all.”
As
a girl, the prospect of balancing a thriving career, a happy marriage
and a couple of well-adjusted kids — all while maintaining my
friendships and hobbies — was sold to me as an ultra-glam aspiration
that left me daydreaming of a well-oiled life with me at the controls.
Though
I’ve checked enough of these boxes, I realize with every passing year
of my 30s that if I have children, something — well, a lot of things —
will have to give. (As Shonda Rhimes once put it:
“Whenever you see me somewhere succeeding in one area of my life, that
almost certainly means I am failing in another area of my life.”)
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