How To Help Other Women
This room likes everything Pompeo says. They nod and whoop and cheer and pinch one another, almost like they're trying to figure out if this is a dream. Imagine, a Hollywood actress actually telling it like it is. Pompeo has been telling it like it is for awhile now, but it's one thing to read about it and it's an entirely different thing to see it right in front of you.
"As women we’re not taught to be brave and celebrate ourselves. We’re taught to be quiet and shy and not brag about who we are and what we make. It’s time to start bragging," she continues onstage to the rapt audience at Marie Claire's annual Power Trip conference.
Bragging is celebrated at the Power Trip which brought a hundred powerful women in business, tech and Hollywood together for 36 hours in San Francisco to brag and chat and connect.
The idea of the Power Trip is to transcend the traditional conference
and allow women to collide and collaborate. Pompeo is currently
living that ethos. She wants women to talk and once they start she
doesn't want them to stop.
"One of the most important things we’ve learned in the past year in Hollywood is that we need to start speaking to each other. In Hollywood we were not in a culture of being able to talk to each other," Pompeo says. "We need to ask other women, 'what are you making?' 'what did he do to you?' 'This is what they're paying me.' 'This is what he did.' We need to share with each other everything we know because there’s power in numbers. We should believe women and support women and defend women and protect each other because the men are not going to protect us."
Pompeo's advice represents the new breed of advice for how women can help other women. And it was really just the tip of the iceberg during the Power Trip. Here's some of the best advice we gathered from this crowd of wildly inspiring women about how to actually lift up other women.
Jen Rubio, President and Chief Brand Officer, Away
"Call on them. Ask for their feedback in meetings. Give them opportunities to lead new projects. Proactively identify ways to call them out for their wins, like in a team-wide Slack note. It will help us all get more comfortable embracing our successes, not just anticipating our potential failures."
Sarah Kunst, Managing Director, Cleo Capital
"Give women money."
Sharon Stone, Actress, Producer, Activist
"The stories we tell matter. The people telling them matter. Together we are stronger. Together we will change the world."
Nancy Berger, Publisher, Marie Claire
Ellen Pompeo speaks to the crowd at Marie Claire's annual Power Trip.KATHRYN WIRSING/MARIE CLAIRE
Ellen Pompeo is fired up. She's fired up
and she's unapologetic about it and she's wearing the chicest blue power
suit you've ever seen while her daughter Stella is snacking on gummy
bears and smiling a smile as big as the moon as she watches her mother
straight talk a room full of powerful women about how to be even more
powerful.
"We’re taught if we’re not bitches we aren’t going to be taken
seriously. But we need to be bitches to the men not the women," Pompeo
says. "Start talking to each other. Stop blaming each other."This room likes everything Pompeo says. They nod and whoop and cheer and pinch one another, almost like they're trying to figure out if this is a dream. Imagine, a Hollywood actress actually telling it like it is. Pompeo has been telling it like it is for awhile now, but it's one thing to read about it and it's an entirely different thing to see it right in front of you.
"As women we’re not taught to be brave and celebrate ourselves. We’re taught to be quiet and shy and not brag about who we are and what we make. It’s time to start bragging," she continues onstage to the rapt audience at Marie Claire's annual Power Trip conference.
Bragging is celebrated at the Power Trip which brought a hundred powerful women in business, tech and Hollywood together for 36 hours in San Francisco to brag and chat and connect.
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"One of the most important things we’ve learned in the past year in Hollywood is that we need to start speaking to each other. In Hollywood we were not in a culture of being able to talk to each other," Pompeo says. "We need to ask other women, 'what are you making?' 'what did he do to you?' 'This is what they're paying me.' 'This is what he did.' We need to share with each other everything we know because there’s power in numbers. We should believe women and support women and defend women and protect each other because the men are not going to protect us."
Pompeo's advice represents the new breed of advice for how women can help other women. And it was really just the tip of the iceberg during the Power Trip. Here's some of the best advice we gathered from this crowd of wildly inspiring women about how to actually lift up other women.
Jen Rubio, President and Chief Brand Officer, Away
"Call on them. Ask for their feedback in meetings. Give them opportunities to lead new projects. Proactively identify ways to call them out for their wins, like in a team-wide Slack note. It will help us all get more comfortable embracing our successes, not just anticipating our potential failures."
Sarah Kunst, Managing Director, Cleo Capital
"Give women money."
Sharon Stone told the crowd the advice
she gives her three sons: "I explain to my sons what boundaries are and
that no means f---ing no."KATHRYN WIRSING/MARIE CLAIRE
"The stories we tell matter. The people telling them matter. Together we are stronger. Together we will change the world."
Nancy Berger, Publisher, Marie Claire
“Connect a woman to another woman that can help her - it’s all about connecting.”
Laura Holstein, Head of Development, Calamity Jane
"Lead with respect and compassion for other women. Be more inclusive and befriend women who are different than yourself!"
Anne Fulenwider, Editor-in-Chief, Marie Claire
"I find ‘women supporting women’ an honorable goal but somewhat daunting in its generality. Start with the specific. Start with the women you know and know how to help. Make an introduction you think could be useful. Give a meaningful compliment. It matters. Women are always so busy trying to problem solve we rarely stop to make sure we ourselves are okay. Check in with the women in your immediate circle. Cultivate your own community."
Rehab Fagiri, Co-founder and CEO, AptDeco
"Lead with respect and compassion for other women. Be more inclusive and befriend women who are different than yourself!"
Anne Fulenwider, Editor-in-Chief, Marie Claire
"I find ‘women supporting women’ an honorable goal but somewhat daunting in its generality. Start with the specific. Start with the women you know and know how to help. Make an introduction you think could be useful. Give a meaningful compliment. It matters. Women are always so busy trying to problem solve we rarely stop to make sure we ourselves are okay. Check in with the women in your immediate circle. Cultivate your own community."
Rehab Fagiri, Co-founder and CEO, AptDeco
"Make a conscious effort to help one to two women within the
next 12 months and really follow through. It’s not enough to take
meetings with junior women. Go the extra mile to help them reach their
next milestone — listen, dig, plot and build together. Set regular
checkpoints and closely follow their progress. We will see more women in
senior positions when we all work collectively as a team, roll our
sleeves, and fully dive in. As the saying goes, it takes a village to
educate a child and it takes a village to see more women in senior
positions."
Courtney O'Donnell, Director of Strategic Engagements, Airbnb
"Create environments that encourage women to raise their
voices. We all know how it feels to be in a meeting or group, and not
feel "heard" despite our best attempts.The simple and intentional act of
reinforcing women's comments, highlighting their ideas and creating
spaces that feel supportive can go a long way."
Julie Rice, Chief Brand Officer WeWork
"One of the highlights of my career thus far has been the
awesome women I have had the pleasure of meeting. One way we can really
help each other out is to SHARE contacts. My business partner Elizabeth
and I get a lot of pleasure from sharing out time and the relationships
we have cultivated with other women. We are enthusiastic “connectors “.
I think back to when we were starting SoulCycle and how few female
entrepreneurs we had to help point us in the right direction. Connecting
awesome women with complimentary skill sets who can help each other
accomplish big things is a tangible way to support other women."
Sheila Shekar Pollak, Chief Marketing Officer, Athleta
“I deeply believe movement powers our brains and bodies. Grab a girlfriend and try something out of your comfort zone. If you’re a yogi, take a kick boxing class; if you’re a runner, try stand up paddling. If you love the studio, go for a hike. By being vulnerable, you’ll realize all you’re capable of - and with a friend, you’re more likely to try something new and to have some great laughs!”
“I deeply believe movement powers our brains and bodies. Grab a girlfriend and try something out of your comfort zone. If you’re a yogi, take a kick boxing class; if you’re a runner, try stand up paddling. If you love the studio, go for a hike. By being vulnerable, you’ll realize all you’re capable of - and with a friend, you’re more likely to try something new and to have some great laughs!”
Jill Kaplan, President, NY/NJ, United Airlines
"There is a difference between networking and having a network. Therefore it is critically important that you have at least 3 or 4 women in your inner circle that you trust and enjoy being with; because you need to know who you can count on to give you honest, real advice even if it is tough to hear."
"There is a difference between networking and having a network. Therefore it is critically important that you have at least 3 or 4 women in your inner circle that you trust and enjoy being with; because you need to know who you can count on to give you honest, real advice even if it is tough to hear."
Jo Piazza is a bestselling author. Her new novel, Charlotte Walsh Likes to Win, a searing story of political ambition, marriage, class and sexual politics, comes out in July.
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